Life and Curve Balls
Just about a month ago I wrote a post about mine and my husband’s goals for the future. Over the course of this last month I have been working towards those goals, though I haven’t been as successful as I would like. But that is life. I’ve gotten things done, systems in place, the foundations built. Now I just need to do the things that create the content by living life.
But its not easy, right? We make plans and have our best intentions but life sometimes throws a curveball. It also creates opportunities to be flexible and, as Ross Geller famously said, “PIVOT!” I love that episode. Might be time for a rewatch. Anyhoo, the ability to flow with the challenges and lessons that we come across is a very good skill to have. My husband and I have learned how to move along with life and trust the universe. We are good at pivoting. Doesn’t mean that it isn’t, how shall I say, sucky sometimes.
This recent river that we are flowing with came from our anniversary trip to Oak Creek in Sedona. We were staying with a couple of our most beloved friends for 4 days. And, oh, it started off lovely! We met up and started the caravan to Sedona. We had a late lunch/early dinner at a favorite spot and then hit a market for some groceries to fill in the spaces where we didn’t want to go out to eat. After checking in we got to the room and we were all exhausted from the travel and the unprecedented heat from Phoenix. Sedona was cooler but it would have been better to be in the previous year’s temps. But climate change is fake, right? Sure it is. I digress. We watched some shows and enjoyed some conversation while we had a snack type dinner then it was bedtime.
Sleeping up in the nature that surrounded us in Oak Creek was so beautiful. The next morning, however, was not. Without going into too much detail, for privacy reasons, we ended up in the Sedona medical center because my husband had a bad fall and his ankle was broken. Everyone at the medical center was great! Didn’t hurt that we were the first people checked in. So, a few hours later, with a diagnosis, splinted ankle, and orders to speak to an orthopedic surgeon we started to navigate the new flow.
So, here we are, only ten days later. Life currently looks like taking care of my honey while he recovers from surgery. I’m glad to be able to do it. I had bone on bone in both my knees for almost a decade when I finally got my replacements. Prior to these new knees I would not be able to help him as I have. So, I am moving forward with that gratitude in my heart. I am grateful to his PCP and ortho surgeon (and their staffs) for their ability to get him in and on his way back to a new normal as quickly as they could. He is passing time by reading and sketching when he’s not sleeping or in too much pain. It tears out my heart to see him hurting and the way he screamed when the incident happened is something I never want him to have to do ever again. I love him so much.
Am I upset? or angry with the universe? Yes. I am upset that my mister is going through this. No, I am not angry with the universe. This doesn’t stop me from trusting in it. Why? Because bad things will happen. There is no stopping it. I trust that the universe, that my higher powers will provide the new way forward…once he’s on his feet again. I will continue to try to find a smile even in the moments we need to duck the curveball or deal with the aftermath of it hitting us in the face. Or ankle. Sometimes we just have to pivot.
Take care and remember that just because the bad thing happens doesn’t mean you deserved it. Now back to work while checking on my artist, my love.
Take care.
